Effective therapy that gets lives back working again – in as few sessions as possible.
I welcome the opportunity to work with you to:
  • Overcome your anxiety, fears and phobias
  • Conquer depression, panic attacks and self-doubts
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Break unwanted habits, obsessions and compulsions
  • Self-harming to self-belief
  • Eating disorders
  • Motivational work/Educational performance and Study skills/Sports performance
  • Build confidence and self-esteem
  • Improve relationships
  • Manage your weight loss and incorporate healthy eating into your life
  • Stop Smoking/Alcohol issues/other addictions ie gambling
  • Pain management


Nature has programmed all of us with physical and emotional needs. These are the ‘human givens’ that cannot be avoided. How stressed we are depends on how well our needs are being met and how well we deal with the situation when they are not. When an imbalance occurs, it may result in anxiety or stress to seriously affect our mental and emotional stability

Therapy to get your life back working

Stress, anxiety, anger, depression and addiction are the result of our innate needs not being met, either due to environmental factors, harmful conditioning or a misuse of imagination (worrying). People do not suffer stress and mental health problems when their innate needs are being met in balanced, healthy ways.

Therapy helps challenge a person’s thinking style and also helps to shift perspective (so you can perhaps see things in a different way). I can work with you to help move you forward, identify meaningful goals that will assist in getting your life back on track. Some people get results in a single session and for others it may require a few more. Providing personal tailored therapy to each individual, I recognise we are all unique, having our own differing experiences along our path in life. How we cope with these challenges can influence how well we perform – utilising our hidden strengths, resources and talents. For some people this may not be so easy and here is where therapy aims to assist you in reaching effective outcomes in as few sessions as is possible

Therapy can help with:

  • Getting your life back working again and start to feel better about yourself
  • This therapy is a modern blend of therapeutic interventions based on up to date brain science and proven neural techniques.
  • No long drawn out voyages of discovery and there is no need to do endless dredging up of the past.
  • Instead therapy is kept as brief as possible, being solution-focussed to equip you the client to be able to access your own resources, strengths and capabilities we are all born with.
  • You will not be dependent on the client-therapist relationship.
  • You will identify and set realistic, achievable goals through working towards getting your emotional needs met in a balanced way.
  • Most people get amazing results with as few as 1-3 sessions –though some complex issues may require more.

Feeling anxious is a normal human condition that helps us to respond to our surroundings in order to survive in the world. Stress is a normal human response to potential hazards in our everyday life and is a good motivator for us to get into action.

Anxiety in constant excess will compromise the immune system to the point where it can speed development of cancers, increase susceptibility to infections, bring on heart disease and accelerate onset of diabetes. It can lead to stomach ulcers and trigger symptoms of ulcerative colitis (inflammatory bowel disease). Even the brain is susceptible to the effects of long-sustained stress resulting in memory problems.

Symptoms of anxiety include: feeling ‘on edge’, restless, difficulty in concentrating, irritability, a sense of ‘dread’, ‘butterflies’ in your stomach. You may feel tiredness, dizziness, headaches, the list is not exhaustive. Therapy will help you gain control over your anxious thinking, challenging negative thoughts and connecting you with your own strengths. Equipping you with tools to lead your life and find your way to get your needs met in balance.


How often do you get angry? All of us have those moments of anger but they are usually short-lived and infrequent. For some people though, anger is a big problem through the course of their day. “I get angry all the time” is a common phrase for someone who finds anger is an everyday event. Anger is bubbling up from within at the slightest thing. This feeling makes it seem like everyone is conspiring against you to make you react like this. A constant state of anger is harmful to your health.

THERAPY can help you stop seeing red and get your life back on an even keel.

For many people the real reason for their anger may not be what it seems. A moment to consider the underlying causes and treat effectively, can produce positive outcomes to channel your energies positively to good use. You will learn new techniques to help prevent anger being triggered – you will be more relaxed and thus in control of your emotions and your life. Before you know it your life and the lives of those around you will be happier and red won’t be the only colour you see.


Whilst it is normal to feel sad on occasion, depression tends to occur over a prolonged period of time and is accompanied by intense sadness. Depression affects all parts of a person – their body, mind and feelings.

THERAPY helps by teaching some gentle breathing and relaxing techniques – plus solution focussed questioning to challenge your thinking style and help create a shift in perspective (ie the bigger picture). You will develop a sense of self, increased confidence and a brighter outlook on life.


Phobias are a common form of anxiety disorder which varies in severity to each person. A phobia is an irrational fear, with the sufferer feeling powerless to overcome and go into panic state. A chronic fear or phobia can bring much anxiety and completely wreak havoc within a sufferer’s life. Whether you suffer a fear of flying, heights, spiders, buttons or whatever – therapy can help you take control of your life.


It is normal to feel shocked and upset when something terrible happens to you. These feelings usually fade within a month of occurring and if they don’t, then you may be diagnosed with PTSD. People may suffer PTSD after having differing kinds of trauma and events within their lives. It may include death, diagnosis of illness/disease, military combat, disasters ie crash/flood victim, rape and can affect children as well as adults. Anxiety coming and going is only one symptom, others include recurring thoughts, memories, images, dreams or terrible flashbacks of the trauma, plus avoidance of issues associated, denial of feelings and suppression of emotion being common.

Therapy assists you to move on and lead a life that is free from the anxiety associated with the traumatic event you suffered. The aim is to de-sensitise the memory so it no longer causes you distress. You will still have the memory of the event, but not the associated trauma and anxiety. Successful treatment will allow you to function well in your daily life, without the previous distress you suffered.


Low self-esteem is common in today’s society and many struggle to find their sense of worth. Self esteem is defined as how a person views themselves. Question – Do you like yourself? Do you deserve happiness? If your answer is no, you probably have low self esteem. If you don’t bounce back from low levels of self-esteem and always have negative thinking patterns about yourself, then now is the time to do something about it. Those unhelpful feelings of hopelessness or having nothing to look forward to can be a thing of the past.


Confidence gives us the ability to engage with the world. When our confidence is low our sense of “I can” is limited – sometimes the idea of a business meeting, an evening with friends or even venturing out beyond the front door seems far from our capabilities.

Therapy naturally builds up inner confidence, since the sense of self-belief in our abilities influences how we think, feel, motivate ourselves and behave. Relaxation therapy assists this process and we thus become able to manage our own emotions and thoughts. Using the power of your own mind, clients rehearse situations where they want to feel more confident and through this experience of mental rehearsal in hypnosis, they develop a sense of mastery that influences performance in real life situations.


In all areas of life, business, sports, careers – the most successful people are often the most motivated. Not being motivated and having specific goals generally goes hand in hand with not getting anywhere in our lives. Having specific goals is a great target to aim for and is essentially the outcome of a suitably focussed mind.

This therapy has helped many people to overcome procrastination and to develop a strong sense of self-motivation and tools for their life. You will be able to redefine the way you think about your abilities and what you can achieve, working on a very deep unconscious level.


Public speaking can cause a natural level of anxiety in most of us, but some people can suffer such crippling and intense anxiety that it impacts disastrously on their professional life. An anticipation that something will go wrong, plus fear associated with looking foolish or being humiliated, or even being thought of as incompetent. You may have suffered missed opportunities, avoided job interviews, missed out on promotion or the chance to manage a special project. A student might avoid a certain class that involves standing up to do presentations or reading out loud.

The enormous anxiety can impact on your confidence and self-esteem.

This therapy will give you the belief in your ability and empower you with the courage and power of a lion to succeed ...when you stand on that podium to deliver with 100% total confidence.

Some therapies are fantastic for changing the way you THINK about things, this therapy works to change the way you FEEL about things, which in turn, allows the thoughts to be different and so change the way you see and experience those aspects of your life.

UTILISING the power of your own mind – our imagination is our very own live running stage within our heads and we can activate and sew seeds for powerful change by rehearsing the desired success we wish to accord in our life.

More importantly you develop a sense of control within your life. Learning to do things differently and activating curiosity enhanced neural processes.

Helping you to move forward with your life – dealing and even letting go of past events, assisting with the present and looking ahead to a more meaningful and joy-filled life.



Human givens therapy draws from the essence of a variety of tried and tested therapeutic methods (such as cognitive therapy, behavioural therapy, interpersonal therapy, solution focused approaches, motivational interviewing, reflective listening and hypnotherapy.

What are ‘human givens’?

The ‘human givens’ encompass both parts of a natural process for us. They are the physical and emotional needs that evolution has programmed into us and the resources that humans have developed over time to meet those needs. Our innate needs drive us to seek fulfilment through the way that we interact with the environment using those resources nature ‘gave’ us.

In short, as human beings, we all have core needs that need to be met and, thanks to nature, we all already have the resources nesting in us to fulfil them.



Human Givens explained

The underlying theory of the therapy is that if our emotional needs are met in balance, it is not possible to suffer from mental illness. Unmet needs result in symptoms of depression, anxiety, panic attacks, Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), or phobias or inappropriate behaviour resulting from anger which in turn feeds into the downward spiral of mental distress. Successful therapy (re)activates people’s own natural resources. It teaches the skills we require to get our needs met in a healthy and balanced way, leading to an upward and outward spiral of growth.


What are our innate human needs?

  • Security (stable home and work)
  • Autonomy (volition and control over the decisions we make in our life)
  • Attention (to give and receive)
  • Connection to others
  • Connection to a wider community
  • Privacy (time to reflect and think)
  • Status (in our lives for whatever roles we play)
  • Competence (achievements)
  • Meaning from being stretched or challenged, being needed or through being part of something bigger than ourselves, for instance philosophising or religion

What resources do I have?

  • The ability to develop memory to enable learning.
  • The ability to build rapport to empower and connect with people.
  • An imaginative mind to focus our attention away from emotions and problem-solve.
  • A conscious rational mind to question and analyse.
  • The ability to ‘know’ unconsciously.
  • An observing self (frontal lobe) to allow us to step back.
  • A dreaming brain which we now know maintains healthy emotional templates.

The results

Therapy fees

Fees: therapy 1 hour session £50

I look forward to speaking with you.

A free 10 minute telephone consultation will determine whether I can be of help. Therapy that is effective, safe, drug-free and without any harmful side-effects – no operation or wound, with long-lasting results.

About Julia

Hello!



Welcome and thank you for visiting my site and taking the time to read through the information. Please contact me if you have any questions.

Psychotherapist in Poole

Here’s a little of my story:

Having been a Registered Qualified Nurse for over 20 years, my clinical nursing and therapeutic training has helped me recognise how anxiety, stress, depression, low self-confidence and low self-esteem can inhibit the development of our emotional health and well-being. It has also equipped me with therapeutic tools that can encourage growth and positive change.

An awareness of the powerful co-relation between a positive mind aiding a healthy body has led me to where I am now.

I recognise the important role that physical health plays within our lives. But a vital part of how we direct our lifestyles is based on our beliefs, values and emotions, shaped by positive and negative past experiences.

I am passionate about this therapy with its powerful potential to facilitate long-lasting change and to ultimately transform lives. This therapy understands how emotions can impact on a physical level to manifest with real symptoms.

I welcome the opportunity to work with you – to reconnect to your highest potential.

I have full indemnity insurance and registration to practice. I maintain a continuous professional development portfolio of updates as an ongoing process. Ethical consideration and values for best practice govern the development of a truly unique, personalised treatment plan to aid your wellbeing. Confidentiality and discretion strictly assured. Please do contact me if I can be of service to you.

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Qualifications and Memberships:

HG Dip (P) – Human Givens Diploma Practitioner

Dip Hyp CS – Hypnotherapy and Counselling Skills

Dip SAC – Life Coaching and Counselling

RN – Registered Nurse (Adult)

HSOH – Hypno Gastric Band Practitioner

AET – Award in Education and Training

RCN – Royal College of Nursing

HGI – Human Givens Institute

GHR – General Hypnotherapy Council

PSA – Accreditation by the Professional Standards Authority

CNHC – Member of the Complementary and Natural Healthcare Council

Getting in Touch

Contact Julia if you have any more questions relating to therapy

Work with me

My practice is in Poole, Dorset and covers surrounding counties. Poole has excellent transport links including road, rail, ferry port, airport.

By prior arrangement only, home consultation therapy sessions may be facilitated for clients with disabilities.

I am within easy reach of Poole, Bournemouth, Hampshire, Wiltshire and surrounding areas. I am able to provide presentations and in-house training on the organising ideas of the Human Givens within your school, health and social care or company setting.

I am here to be of service to you; please call or email me for assistance. I look forward to hearing from you.

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